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Kathleen's avatar

I enjoyed reading this and relate to much of what you shared. I wore my nursing bras for 2 years after stopping breastfeeding because they were just that comfy and I didn't give a damn that they didn't lift my girls up in any way. At the same time, I have stayed in the house simply because I felt ugly. For me, the beast was hormonal acne. I said no to so much because I didn't want to put myself through the constant worrying about my appearance. Social media only made me more self-conscious. In hindsight, I can see how unfortunate it was that I felt that way and how it wouldn't have mattered because everyone is thinking about their own shit, not mine, but alas....I had to go through it to learn the lesson(s).

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Elyse Hughes's avatar

You put sooo many things to words here, Alexandra, that I simply haven't been able to. Thank you 💜 ~ e

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𝑀𝑖𝑚𝑖🐚✧˖°'s avatar

Thank you.

<3

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Jon Cohen's avatar

wonderful, as always!

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Lindsay P's avatar

"Hot damn! It's babe-o'clock!" I love you.

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Katie Valtcheva's avatar

You would love The Review of Beauty by Jessica DeFino if you aren't already subscribed! Also, hearing the way our mothers talk to themselves made me realize the first place I might've learned this behavior. I only realized this recently though, as a full-blown adult!

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Zillennial Traveler's avatar

Dude I love this

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Elise Powers's avatar

My first time reading your work!! Instant subscribe!! 🫶

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Joelle's avatar

Such a beautiful piece. It’s funny, as a woman in my 20s, the difference between me and my sister in her 30s is so noticeable. She is so worried about being fat, she truly believes she needs to present a pretty face to the world. I’m aware of how stunning endless amounts of women are thanks to IG and influencers, perhaps far more than she is, but I’m also free from feeling such a strong responsibility to match them. It really only takes societal discourse at a young age, I guess. Like we can give each other permission

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Kishly's avatar

Thank you for this. 🤧❤️💋

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